FEel Broken and WAnt to “FIx” It?

Growing up, I believed I needed to be both a successful, independent, modern woman and find Mr. Right to sweep me off my feet and make my dreams come true. And for a while, I seemed on track with a thriving career and a thrilling marriage to a great man.

But as life’s demands piled up—kids, jobs, pets, home renovations—romance faded, replaced by endless to-do lists. My husband and I drifted apart, overwhelmed by our responsibilities and disappointed in our day to day.

I felt rejected yet I craved his connection. I felt powerless, thinking I’d need him to change or to step up differently to fix it. Or I thought I’d need to drastically change our circumstances, our careers perhaps…and I didn’t know how.

We’d built our lives around a double income. My H just thought we were on different paths and heading towards an inevitable end.

I didn’t want that. I wanted to feel special. I wanted to feel loved. And so I found myself experimenting with some unconventional thinking. It ended up changing everything.

Where I’d been trying to change everything and everyone around me, I learned I could instead focus on the way I showed up, and in turn influence all my relationships differently.

These new ways of interacting felt like someone had gifted me a magic wand. But it’s no make-believe that under that guidance, we grew closer, and stronger. So much so that we left the UK to embrace a dream of living in the sunshine together. Today, when not at work, you’ll find us making happy in the beautiful Spanish countryside.

Drop me a line if you want a magic wand of your own.

Coach KK